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fredfoxw28 · 01-12-2008, 08:32 AM

Hi
I'm new. I was searching oline for suuport about my problem and I found this website and i think you guys can help.

I have been married to my husband for about 7.5 years. from the beginnig he has always made sex such a big issue. we can be find for a awhile but god forbid if we go without having sex for a week then there are hidden meanings behind it, or I don't find him attractive ot he thinks I'm interested in someon else. then he trys to make me feel bad and says I have a sexual disfunction, when I know deep down he has the issue. when the argument is over he appologizes for acting that way and then does it again.

thursday night I waited up for him and when he came into the bedroom I asked him to turn off the tv. He does then heads out the room. I told him I was waiting up for him, he said he felt like I was kicking him out of the room. He said he was coming back, then he proceeds to watch tv in the living room and then go shaves. what was that? Your wife is ready for you then you are not interested. then when he finally gets in bed he lays in the bed like a dead man for about a 1/2hr then approaches me. I told him I was waiting up for him then he says that I put him on a schedule then he gets out of the bed and gets mad and says were still going through this and that he does not want to fight but i's obvious that he is.

At this point I feel defeated and I have no energy and I am tired of playing the games.

I know he is very insecure and in a perfect world he wants me to be the innitiator all the time and when I do he feels like I am trying to do him a favor. what he does not understand we have a child and we go to work and I get tired and so does he but its my fault that he is not getting enough sex.

I don't know what to do and he is pushing me away.

any advice?

01-12-2008, 08:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
fredfoxw28 Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: jamaica queens Posts: 47	still fighting about sex Hi I'm new. I was searching oline for suuport about my problem and I found this website and i think you guys can help. I have been married to my husband for about 7.5 years. from the beginnig he has always made sex such a big issue. we can be find for a awhile but god forbid if we go without having sex for a week then there are hidden meanings behind it, or I don't find him attractive ot he thinks I'm interested in someon else. then he trys to make me feel bad and says I have a sexual disfunction, when I know deep down he has the issue. when the argument is over he appologizes for acting that way and then does it again. thursday night I waited up for him and when he came into the bedroom I asked him to turn off the tv. He does then heads out the room. I told him I was waiting up for him, he said he felt like I was kicking him out of the room. He said he was coming back, then he proceeds to watch tv in the living room and then go shaves. what was that? Your wife is ready for you then you are not interested. then when he finally gets in bed he lays in the bed like a dead man for about a 1/2hr then approaches me. I told him I was waiting up for him then he says that I put him on a schedule then he gets out of the bed and gets mad and says were still going through this and that he does not want to fight but i's obvious that he is. At this point I feel defeated and I have no energy and I am tired of playing the games. I know he is very insecure and in a perfect world he wants me to be the innitiator all the time and when I do he feels like I am trying to do him a favor. what he does not understand we have a child and we go to work and I get tired and so does he but its my fault that he is not getting enough sex. I don't know what to do and he is pushing me away. any advice?