Originally Posted by suzett

Well, it is very natural and normal not to trust him since he lied to you. Do you have any children together? I have to ask that question, because he appears to not be feeling as devoted as he should be as far as commitment to his marriage and relationship to you. He needs to cut this relationship off completely and immediately. Marriage means "forsaking all others". It sounds like he is not in agreement with you as to what that means. I understand you are hurt and therefore upset. But this is really a time to see if his idea of being married is the same as yours. You both made promises and it appears that there was a red flag even before the wedding (the long chat) so if he does not want to be transparent with you about his relationships he may not be "husband material", and the sooner you find this out the better. I'm sorry to have to share these hard things with you, but if you want a faithful marriage than you must be with someone who also wants that and shows it by their behavior. Love is shown by actions not just words. If you tolerate his divided feelings they will continue. So let him know what you expect and if he will not comply then end the drama, and take some time to find a man who understands what it means to be married and committed.