Originally Posted by steak
- You are a woman
- You are Christian
- You wanted to wait until marriage to have sex.
I'm not surprised you hate sex.
I don't see how your "problem" can be fixed, you have and always will have alot of hang ups about sex. You are normal... considering you are a Christian woman.
It's not in your nature to like sex or physical intimacy. Your husband surely knew it was gonna be like this so he'll have to live with it.
If a man marries a deeply devoted christian woman who doesn't want sex before marriage.... He should not be surprised when the marriage turns out to be sexless.
That is a highly prejudiced, judgmental and insulting thing to say.
Perhaps you haven't noticed, but Catholics have huge families and tend to go at it like rabbits more often than not. Even the Amish are into sex, in fact they condone sleeping together before marriage as a way to determine compatibility.
What you said was the equivalent of insulting any other ethnic group by making vague, unflattering and nasty comments about them in a flippant manner.
To the OP. I suspect that what may be the issue is how you saw your parents act and interact. I've heard say that one's expectations and standards for most all social interactions are heavily influenced by the situation one grew up around. Even if we don't accept it and think that we'll be different, many times we end up the same. Fortunately there is freewill and the ability to exercise it. The poster who suggested the long baths and back rubs and the "just do it" line of thinking is right on, it seems that while you lack experience in this realm you can easily establish your own baseline by setting *your* relationship expectations beyond what you grew up seeing with your parents.
Good luck, and ignore those who simply wish to post in order to belittle your faith.