Originally Posted by brighterlight
Yes, you are giving her ultimatum! So which one is it? You and move in or the other guy?
How's that for an answer to her dodging? I would consider the sep but be careful how you word it if you do it yourself. That is if she doesn't answer your "ultimatum" favorably.
Just my thought on it.
So I made her choose last night. She wanted to separate with me agreeing to a 50/50 split of the boys. I said I am not agreeing to that. It is either try to work it out and dump the other guy or a separation and let the courts decide everything. She kept saying that I am holding the kids as ransom to keep her. She thinks she is not in the wrong whatsoever. So after a brief discussion she said she chooses the kids over the over guy. I said fine, we will go to counseling to work on our relationship them.
The rest of the night she sulked and acted all pissed off. I went to bed first and then she came in for the first time in a long time and move close to me. I made the mistake of putting my arm on her back and she told me not to touch her. I moved to the other side of the bed. In the middle of the night she moved over towards me and started rubbing my arm. I asked her about it this morning and she flatly denied doing it. I then asked if she was going to two parties this weekend with me. She said no, she wasn't. I told her that she has to come back all the way or not come back at all. She preceded to act like the victim again. She doesn't think she did anything wrong. So I said I am going to visit my lawyer today and get the separation. She kept saying that I was using the kids to trap her. I said that she choose for the past 6 months not to be with the kids and that was her problem when it came to custody. I also said that I didn't want my sons and her boyfriend fighting over toys together. He is 22 and my son is 8. I know that was immature but I wanted to prove my point.
Anyways I am moving forward and filing the separation today. I am not going to talk to her any more. I can not win a word arguement with her. I am just going to state that I am moving on. Am I overreacting? Am I using the kids as ransom?