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mswren7 · 07-17-2011, 11:02 PM

How could anyone really get over or contine to respect, love or live with a husband who cheated with other women during 5 years of being on internet dating sites behind my back, plus a father-in-law who instead of directing his feelings about what his son actions had done to me and our children, directed accusations about me and my family (who have done nothing wrong during this whole fiasco) and told me not to disrepect his son and made up things about my siblings that happened on my wedding day, when I finally broke down and told him recently about his son's cheating.

I had neither my husband or FIL showing any empathy and they acted like bullies towards me, with neither one of them prepared to stop the other. Such cowards.

Did he chose to say something about my wedding day because that is supposedly a day in a woman's life that she is the happiest and he said something to destroy that memory?

What sort of a husband and in-laws am I dealing with?

Even though it is 2 years past d-day, my feelings for him and his family are at an all-time low and I want to get away from them all. How does anyone say they would want to save a marriage after this?

My husband just seems to behave as things are normal, but there is something un-nerving I feel being with him. I cant put my finger on what it is about his personality. Maybe a sociopath who pretends to have feelings but he really has no depth.

He joined me in the shower the other day and thought he would try for sex but I was in a hurry to go out. I tried to make it up to him that night and suggested it but he turned me down.

I do not understand the man I have lived with for 12 years. I think maybe I bring out the worst in him. I get so confused when I read other betrayed spouses saying they still love their partner and want to save their marriage. How do they get over such disrespect, lies, loss of trust, and betrayal, and also in-laws who did not condemn their son's actions but supported him and tore strips off me?

07-17-2011, 11:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
mswren7 Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 65	I think too much has happened to continue How could anyone really get over or contine to respect, love or live with a husband who cheated with other women during 5 years of being on internet dating sites behind my back, plus a father-in-law who instead of directing his feelings about what his son actions had done to me and our children, directed accusations about me and my family (who have done nothing wrong during this whole fiasco) and told me not to disrepect his son and made up things about my siblings that happened on my wedding day, when I finally broke down and told him recently about his son's cheating. I had neither my husband or FIL showing any empathy and they acted like bullies towards me, with neither one of them prepared to stop the other. Such cowards. Did he chose to say something about my wedding day because that is supposedly a day in a woman's life that she is the happiest and he said something to destroy that memory? What sort of a husband and in-laws am I dealing with? Even though it is 2 years past d-day, my feelings for him and his family are at an all-time low and I want to get away from them all. How does anyone say they would want to save a marriage after this? My husband just seems to behave as things are normal, but there is something un-nerving I feel being with him. I cant put my finger on what it is about his personality. Maybe a sociopath who pretends to have feelings but he really has no depth. He joined me in the shower the other day and thought he would try for sex but I was in a hurry to go out. I tried to make it up to him that night and suggested it but he turned me down. I do not understand the man I have lived with for 12 years. I think maybe I bring out the worst in him. I get so confused when I read other betrayed spouses saying they still love their partner and want to save their marriage. How do they get over such disrespect, lies, loss of trust, and betrayal, and also in-laws who did not condemn their son's actions but supported him and tore strips off me?