Snowqueen

We are going to go to counseling, and I've realized that the emotional abuse was a major part of the problem. How can you love someone that makes you feel bad about yourself? So basically I'm re-doing all of my mistakes. It's partly my fault for not calling him on his hurtful comments. Whenever he said something mean or bluntly rude, instead of nipping it in the bud, and bringing it to his attention, I sat there and sulked instead. Now I see this didn't solve anything. He didn't know he'd done anything wrong, and my love for him just dwindled slowly and quietly without warning. So now, I'm trying to catch him on any mean comment and not let him get away with it. Make him think about it, and make him realize how hurtful it can come across. I think this is going to be very helpful. I'm so unconfrontational though, it's going to be really hard to do. We both need to make some drastic changes.