Snowqueen

Mumofthree,

I can't applaud you enough. Wow- in my book, you are the heroin of the story. You did everything a woman possibly could do to try and make the marriage work. The easiest thing to do to save you pain and grief would have been to kick him out on the street the first time you found out about the affair. But you saw the big picture, and despite your hurt feelings, you decided to take the long route and try to repair the damage done. Not only for you two, but also for your kids. Divorce is hard on little tykes, and it's good for you to have gotten past yourself and considered their feelings too.

As far as the wayward husband, that is his choice and his choice alone. This is not baseball- when it comes to cheating, once is qualified for divorce. And for those amazing people who give their spouses another chance- twice, and they're out. You did more than enough on your end, and if you're husband doesn't pick up his slack, then that's his problem. Your broken heart will mend, and you have three wonderful support systems to help you through. We are also here for you anytime you need to talk.