mommieof3

Hello, I have read quite a few posts. I can tell you that I am married to a man who has children with his first wife and although that B**** drives me nuts, I encourage my husband to visit with his children as often as they want to come. I can't see why your wife is being this way. For her to say that no woman would not want you is to bring you down. My ex used to tell me because I had three children with him that no other man would want me too. And I am married again and he accepts me and my children as his own. It can bring you down. Ask your wife to put herself in your shoes. If she had other children and you were dead set against her seeing them what would she do. A father's bond is or should be just as stong as a mothers. Yeah we pooped out the kids but that does not make us anymore attached to them fathers have rights too. I do not think that what your wife is doing is right. If you really love your children you will spend as much time with them as you can so that they feel that you love them too. You cant say in the long run of things that it will hurt, even if you divorce, in court for visitation rights what can she say.. He spent too much time with his kids so I left. That makes her sound controlling. Also you have three children not just one and even though they have different mothers they all should feel that they are your children and that you love them all the same. I wouldn't push my children away for anything. My children come first. They need love, your wife will have to take seconds to them. She is a big girl and can handle it or leave. She should want to get to know your children with your ex, I mean after all they are your daughters siblings as well and a part of you.