Originally Posted by jnj express
Hey MIP---let me ask you something----you had great disrespect for your H., which led to your cheating on him
What do you think of him now, in that he is basically just sliding this under the rug---and really not making you accountable---do you still disrespect him----is that part of what stands in your way
How do you intend to deal with the other wife----you have helped to wreck her home---what will you say to her----even tho her main beef is with her H.----it did take the 2 of you to do this
What were your thoughts, as you went thru stop sign, after stop sign---knowing you were gonna wreck the lives of your kids
What could you have told yourself to make it OK for you to do this????????
I think my husband is quick to forgive but I don't think we are sliding this under the rug. He lets me know daily how I hurt him and asks me hard questions daily. He is seeing a counselor that is helping him deal with this situation as I am. Everyday is challenging for both of us since it has only been three weeks. I don't disrespect him but I do think that my lack of respect is standing in the way. I know I am not the victim here but I experienced a lot of hurt and resentment throughout my marriage that I need to get past. I do respect the way my husband is handling this situation and I am so grateful that he is willing to give me a second chance.
I am scared to deal with the other woman. Words can't express enough of how bad I feel that her world is going to be turned upside down as well. I wish that the other man would come clean and tell her everything but he said that he is going to minimize it. The only thing I can do is express my remorse and apologize. That phone call or confrontation should be any day now....
When I was in the midst of all this I was just being so selfish. I told myself that I was finally happy and had someone in my life that was exciting, would validate me, understood me, etc.... I wasn't looking for an affair but when I started getting attention I jumped right in. I was content with the emotional part of it but he was pressing the physical. I stupid and arrogant thinking I wasn't going to get caught. I was sacrificing everything that was truly important to me just for my fake happiness in the moment. I know I am an idiot. I am glad itís over.....