draconis

I think your issues in some way come done to trust. My wife gets flirted with but men of any age. It is in the way she handles it I feel secure for the most part. But then again we have clear guideline to what is acceptable for each of us in any situation, and we stay by them. My wife is a big flirt, in the back of my head, sure it bothers me a bit. Just the same way if a girl flirts with me my wife gets possesive (which I find funny) since I never flirt myself. But what keeps me okay is the fact our guidelines of a simple hug is the limit, which we both agree to.

Of course everyone is different and you can't control if someone is going to flirt with you. You and your husband need to communicate guideline that neither are going to feel is oppressive or too liberal. Each couple need to find their own balance in this.

I would start by asking him what he feels is comfortable for him, and why.

draconis