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Oreo · 01-17-2008, 07:16 AM

My husband and i have been married for almost 9 years, together for almost 12. For the most part we have a really great sexual relationship. When we do have sex it usually lasts 2-3 hours, sometimes more. I try to do all I can to make him happy - he doesn't ask for it, I just choose to do it..... we watch porn together - we use sex toys - I dress up for him - I send him porn pics - I send him dirty texts usually daily.

One problem is - he almost NEVER initiates sex - we talked about this NUMEROUS times and he says he will initiate it and then never does - more often than not we end up fighting when talking about it.

The other night something happened that I never thought I would find - keep in mind that earlier in the day I sent him a text telling him "I want sex" and a few more things that I will leave up to the imagination. After we put our kids to bed, the night was the same old same old - we watched some tv - he played a game on the computer and at about 11:00 he was done with the game and asked what I was watching. I told him nothing really - he could watch whatever he wanted - he put on the news - no big deal. After about 10 minutes, I dozed off - around 11:10. At 11:20 my dog woke me up to go outside - this was unusual because my husband was watching tv in the same room but now was not there. I let the dogs out and wondered where he was - I found the basement door closed so I went down - there he was watching a porn and jacking off.

Keep in mind I have NO problem with him watching porn or even taking care of himself, but, this particular day, I TOLD him I wanted sex and as usual I hoped he would let me know he wanted it to.

My reaction was "Nice Babe - real Nice" and I went back upstairs mad - he came up shortly and we discussed it a bit - but I was and still am as upset that he would rather take care of himself then come and let me know he needed some. He said he didn't want to wake me up - ok, not like I was in a deep sleep - I had just dozed off - while waiting for him to WANT to go to bed.

He said I was blowing the situation way out of proportion, but I felt that he would rather do himself than bother with me - do I have a right to be upset? We hardly ever fight, but when we do it's huge - right now I'm finding myself totally pissed about this situation and I'm too embarrassed to talk to anyone close to me and tell them hey yeah, the hubby would rather jack off then let me know he wants some............

PLEASE HELP!

01-17-2008, 07:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
Oreo Registered User Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 4	Masturbating instead of sex? My husband and i have been married for almost 9 years, together for almost 12. For the most part we have a really great sexual relationship. When we do have sex it usually lasts 2-3 hours, sometimes more. I try to do all I can to make him happy - he doesn't ask for it, I just choose to do it..... we watch porn together - we use sex toys - I dress up for him - I send him porn pics - I send him dirty texts usually daily. One problem is - he almost NEVER initiates sex - we talked about this NUMEROUS times and he says he will initiate it and then never does - more often than not we end up fighting when talking about it. The other night something happened that I never thought I would find - keep in mind that earlier in the day I sent him a text telling him "I want sex" and a few more things that I will leave up to the imagination. After we put our kids to bed, the night was the same old same old - we watched some tv - he played a game on the computer and at about 11:00 he was done with the game and asked what I was watching. I told him nothing really - he could watch whatever he wanted - he put on the news - no big deal. After about 10 minutes, I dozed off - around 11:10. At 11:20 my dog woke me up to go outside - this was unusual because my husband was watching tv in the same room but now was not there. I let the dogs out and wondered where he was - I found the basement door closed so I went down - there he was watching a porn and jacking off. Keep in mind I have NO problem with him watching porn or even taking care of himself, but, this particular day, I TOLD him I wanted sex and as usual I hoped he would let me know he wanted it to. My reaction was "Nice Babe - real Nice" and I went back upstairs mad - he came up shortly and we discussed it a bit - but I was and still am as upset that he would rather take care of himself then come and let me know he needed some. He said he didn't want to wake me up - ok, not like I was in a deep sleep - I had just dozed off - while waiting for him to WANT to go to bed. He said I was blowing the situation way out of proportion, but I felt that he would rather do himself than bother with me - do I have a right to be upset? We hardly ever fight, but when we do it's huge - right now I'm finding myself totally pissed about this situation and I'm too embarrassed to talk to anyone close to me and tell them hey yeah, the hubby would rather jack off then let me know he wants some............ PLEASE HELP!