Originally Posted by turnera
You don't want her to know you are growing a spine? Why? Is she going to beat you up?
If you want a real marriage, for god's sake, start being honest with her.
The subtitle of the book is: "Getting what you want in love, sex and life."
In her current frame of mind, she would probably see this as a handbook on how to have an affair. I thought I'd let my actions speak for themselves. If she thinks I'm just doing something because a book said to, it might not be as credible. That's how she thinks.
BTW, the move I made where I looked her in the eye and told her I was going to take our son on his bike was a result of the book. Her reaction speaks for itself.