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blind · 01-18-2008, 08:51 AM

We had a pretty good evening last night. We took the kids to dinner. Afterwards I took our son to Wal-Mart to pick up some dog food. It was nice to have a little time with him. At 5 yrs old I know he suspects something is amiss, but I'm sure he doesn't understand. My wife has started working out in the mornings before work. I think this is a great way for her to have a little time for herself. She has been wanting an Ipod, so I picked up one for her. Not trying to buy her love, but I knew she wanted one. Then I took care of the kids the rest of the evening and took care of putting them to bed. This gave her some more time to play with the Ipod, download some songs, and get it ready for her next workout. Giving her this time made me feel good too.

This morning I told her almost exactly what draconis suggested, that I know who she really is and that I really liked and missed that person. She gave me a hug and I believe she did it because she wanted to.

My wife's birthday is next month. Tell me what you think of this idea. I am going to put together a package with 12 "My days". I want her to use 1 each month for the next year. For instance, she likes to work in the flower beds at our home. I plan to get a gift certificate to a nursery so she can pick out what ever plants/flowers she wants. I'll take care of the kids and give her time to go to the nursery and work in the flower beds for the day. Another one will be a session at a day spa. Again, I'll take care of the kids and everything else so that she can enjoy a nice massage, etc. I have ideas for the others days as well. I would like for her to use one each month, when ever she likes. Fortunately I am in a financial situation where I can go ahead and take care of the expenses of each of the days. This way, she doesn't have to worry about a thing. I want to do one for each month for the next year to show her I am committed to giving her the time she needs for herself. Certainly she will need more than one day each month. I will make it clear I am not trying to limit her to one "My day" per month. I just thought if I give her one for each month it shows I am committed to making permanent changes. Does this sound like a good idea?

Thanks for the comments and I welcome any more thoughts you have.

01-18-2008, 08:51 AM	#11 (permalink)
blind Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 65	Re: I'm losing my only love We had a pretty good evening last night. We took the kids to dinner. Afterwards I took our son to Wal-Mart to pick up some dog food. It was nice to have a little time with him. At 5 yrs old I know he suspects something is amiss, but I'm sure he doesn't understand. My wife has started working out in the mornings before work. I think this is a great way for her to have a little time for herself. She has been wanting an Ipod, so I picked up one for her. Not trying to buy her love, but I knew she wanted one. Then I took care of the kids the rest of the evening and took care of putting them to bed. This gave her some more time to play with the Ipod, download some songs, and get it ready for her next workout. Giving her this time made me feel good too. This morning I told her almost exactly what draconis suggested, that I know who she really is and that I really liked and missed that person. She gave me a hug and I believe she did it because she wanted to. My wife's birthday is next month. Tell me what you think of this idea. I am going to put together a package with 12 "My days". I want her to use 1 each month for the next year. For instance, she likes to work in the flower beds at our home. I plan to get a gift certificate to a nursery so she can pick out what ever plants/flowers she wants. I'll take care of the kids and give her time to go to the nursery and work in the flower beds for the day. Another one will be a session at a day spa. Again, I'll take care of the kids and everything else so that she can enjoy a nice massage, etc. I have ideas for the others days as well. I would like for her to use one each month, when ever she likes. Fortunately I am in a financial situation where I can go ahead and take care of the expenses of each of the days. This way, she doesn't have to worry about a thing. I want to do one for each month for the next year to show her I am committed to giving her the time she needs for herself. Certainly she will need more than one day each month. I will make it clear I am not trying to limit her to one "My day" per month. I just thought if I give her one for each month it shows I am committed to making permanent changes. Does this sound like a good idea? Thanks for the comments and I welcome any more thoughts you have.