One week ago, he dropped the bomb on me. Said he wanted a divorce. I thought things were getting better, seems like I have been wrong.
Problems started early this year, after our son was born. He was heavily in debts, due to his compulsive gambling habits. Things got worse as he started to lost control of it. Ppl has been chasing after him for money until a point where he finally broke down and came up with some stupid decision. Things have been very strained between us, he kept to himself most of the time and refused to talk. He blamed himself a lot for what happened and refused help from me.
Finally managed to get him to talk last night. He wanted a divorce badly, for fear of burdening me any further, said he owed me too much and such, his sense of guilt is too strong to him to even face me properly. During the last mth or so, he admitted to confiding his problems to one of his girl-friend. Thus over time, this friendship seems to have developed to something a little more than that. He admitted he did have a little bit of feelings for her but she has already gone back to her own country. So only contact nowadays is via sms.
His friend offered him a job in another country. He has agreed to take up the offer. Will only be coming back every few months whenever possible to see us. He said this is the only way out for him right now. Note: He has been unemployed for some time now.
Now comes the headache. He is quite determined on the divorce. He told me 1 thing when I asked him to promise me not to come back eventually with another additional "person". He did not dare make that promise. He explained, sometimes when a person is alone and really down, he does need someone to show concern for him too. He is worried that he will meet that someone over there .. and from friendship.. evolved into something else again.
What should I do now? I am quite resigned to fate and I cant see in anyway how I could have avoid a divorce. Moreover what if, in the end, he really does get involved with someone else.