Originally Posted by Failure
He has agreed to take up the offer. Will only be coming back every few months whenever possible to see us. He said this is the only way out for him right now.
Now comes the headache. He is quite determined on the divorce. He told me 1 thing when I asked him to promise me not to come back eventually with another additional "person". He did not dare make that promise. He explained, sometimes when a person is alone and really down, he does need someone to show concern for him too. He is worried that he will meet that someone over there .. and from friendship.. evolved into something else again.(
Who is us? Is there a child involved?
Him being gone that long WILL present a problem and hard as he might try, he just may get involved in another relationship.
I know that this is hard to take, but on the other hand ... he is giving you a way out, and based on what you've (or should I say HE) has said, the situation is liable to get worse.
The warning messages that he has given you may become a reality because he's readily admitting his weaknesses.
You can wait it out and see what happens in a few months, which WILL be hard to handle. Or you can take his offer if you suspect that it WILL get worse.
No One can really advise you on this one. You know him better than anyone. If you think that he can remain FAITHFUL, then I would take the Wait and See approach.