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Sprite · 02-05-2009, 01:47 PM

Oh boy Momto9...my question is...do you really have 9kids? and why the heck did you alllow so many into such a troubled marriage?

But there is hope, if that is what you really are looking for. Men are very straight forward most of the time. They can not read our minds or pick up on the hints we give them. I was in a situation very similar to yours. Always making excuses for his behavior, always being left behind and lied to, etc. I finally got to the point where you are now....all the talking I did for the past 15 years was falling on deaf ears....untill the day I told him flat out...I HAD ENOUGH, I AM DONE! He finally listened to me because he knew he was about to lose his babysitter, financial advisor, house keeper, and what ever else it was he couldnt live without, he decided to put in an effort. Now he has changed and is the man I wanted all along, but the love I once had for him has been lost a long time ago. There is hope if he will for once in his life listen to you and care enough to fix it. It is possible, but it is not an easy road. After all the years of his treatment to you, if he does change, you will find yourself not trusting in him or his new behavior becasue you have been "programmed" to think, act, react a certain way.

The first thing you have to do is make a stand for yourself and MEAN it. If you are lucky, he will see the error of his ways and how detrimental they were.

02-05-2009, 01:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
Sprite Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 274	Re: walkaway wife Oh boy Momto9...my question is...do you really have 9kids? and why the heck did you alllow so many into such a troubled marriage? But there is hope, if that is what you really are looking for. Men are very straight forward most of the time. They can not read our minds or pick up on the hints we give them. I was in a situation very similar to yours. Always making excuses for his behavior, always being left behind and lied to, etc. I finally got to the point where you are now....all the talking I did for the past 15 years was falling on deaf ears....untill the day I told him flat out...I HAD ENOUGH, I AM DONE! He finally listened to me because he knew he was about to lose his babysitter, financial advisor, house keeper, and what ever else it was he couldnt live without, he decided to put in an effort. Now he has changed and is the man I wanted all along, but the love I once had for him has been lost a long time ago. There is hope if he will for once in his life listen to you and care enough to fix it. It is possible, but it is not an easy road. After all the years of his treatment to you, if he does change, you will find yourself not trusting in him or his new behavior becasue you have been "programmed" to think, act, react a certain way. The first thing you have to do is make a stand for yourself and MEAN it. If you are lucky, he will see the error of his ways and how detrimental they were.