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I fully understand your pain. My STBXW's PA was not ongoing (only because of the distance), but her EA was/is very similar to what you describe. Throwing it in your face makes it even more painful. Divorce him and move on. Your 14 year old will see what's up. There is a good book I am reading that helps with telling the children. I have already used several of the suggestions. "Helping Children Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way" - I believe that is the title. I don't have it right in front of me. Read that and it will help with your worries about your child. A divorce sounds bad and I put up with a lot of **** for a long time "for the sake of the kids." Divorce, however, is better than a toxic marriage, which is what you have. Just my 2 cents worth.