In my opinion, if one is truly in love with someone, they will do everything in their power not to hurt the one that they profess to love. This is why I find it very difficult to understand what my H means when he tries to explain his cheating to me.
He says that when he was cheating, it was easy for him not to get emotionally involved with the OW because he would “compartmentalize” his life. He says that this is how he was able to easily separate his relationship with me from his relationship with the OW. He kept his discussions about me with the OW to a bare minimum and of course, would never discuss OW with me! He kept those compartments completely separate from one another. For example, while involved with OW, he was able to have cybersex with her during the day, “close that compartment” altogether afterwards, pick me up from work and proceed with his life with me, as if nothing had happened.
I am having a difficult time understanding how someone can consciously organize their life into compartments like that with the sole intent of deceiving someone that they supposedly love.
I would especially love to get some insight from someone who has cheated. Is it possible for someone to deliberately cheat on their spouse and still love them at the same time? Did you also compartmentalize your life and if so, was it to make cheating easier or to make it more bearable on you?
He says that when he was cheating, it was easy for him not to get emotionally involved with the OW because he would “compartmentalize” his life. He says that this is how he was able to easily separate his relationship with me from his relationship with the OW. He kept his discussions about me with the OW to a bare minimum and of course, would never discuss OW with me! He kept those compartments completely separate from one another. For example, while involved with OW, he was able to have cybersex with her during the day, “close that compartment” altogether afterwards, pick me up from work and proceed with his life with me, as if nothing had happened.
I am having a difficult time understanding how someone can consciously organize their life into compartments like that with the sole intent of deceiving someone that they supposedly love.
I would especially love to get some insight from someone who has cheated. Is it possible for someone to deliberately cheat on their spouse and still love them at the same time? Did you also compartmentalize your life and if so, was it to make cheating easier or to make it more bearable on you?