Originally Posted by Enchantment
Hmm... I could have written your thread more than 20 years ago. My H was exactly the same!
Didn't know anything about sexual addiction then (still really don't), but my H did not seem to have withdrawal symptoms - like sweating or being jumpy because he didn't have sex. He just really, really liked to have sex. I could not keep up with him. We did have to devise ways to compromise - you might need to explore how you two can work out some sort of solution.
I will say, that it did get to a crisis point for us about 3 years or so into the marriage where I was ready to leave. It can be difficult to live with someone like that at times.
We were able to work it out and things smoothed out enough where we were (and are) both satisfied, but it took work and compromise from BOTH of us to get to that point.
Are you letting your husband know how this makes you feel? If not, you should be trying to have some candid conversations about what each of you needs and wants in your marriage and how you can work together to make that happen.
Thanks for your reply. To be honest, it's not so much that I mind having sex so often. He's really hot and the sex is always really good. Even when I really think I don't want to, he's able to seduce me and make me want to. It's that I don't *need* to have it as often as he apparently does, and i would like to be able to cut down to prepare for a future in which it just won't be possible to do it so often. We have talked about it, but nothing that we've agreed to has stuck, mostly because he can't seem to control himself and I haven't got the willpower to force it on him.
The other thing that he loves doing other than having sex is working out, and I think that might actually be contributing to his hyperactive libido. But I don't want him to stop working out just so his sex drive can be normal.