| | Re: Not sexually attracted to wife
Thank you all for reading my post and commenting! I wanted to see what other people thought of this situation and I got that! I'm very happy that I was able to see things from all points of view.
Last night we went out to eat with a couple who just had a baby. It was the new mom's first night without the baby so we had a couple of drinks and good converstaion. I was dressed up and looking cute and I secretly knew that I was going to play hard to get and tease the husband tonight to see what happens. We had been sitting at the table for a while and I reached over and put my hand on his leg and rubbed it with just my finger tips, then moved my hand. He then put his hand on my leg then put his arm around me. We had great sex when we got home...not the sort of passionate, rip my clothes off as we are walking down the hall way, throw me on the bed kind of sex that I would love...it was the same sex that it always is, but it was still good. So this morning I asked him if there was anything he wanted to say to me..anything at all to just clear his mind, get anything of his chest, even if he was afraid it would hurt my feelings..he was also sitting next to me on the couch which never happens. He usually sits on one couch and I sit on the other..just habit I guess. He just looked at me right in the eyes and smiled and said "no, I just want you to be happy". So he went outside to work on the lawnmower and I cooked his favorite breakfast..when he came back in I had his plate ready and told him it was my peace offering. He smiled and said " Hell yeah!" LOL!
After reading some of the latest posts, I guess I painted a pretty bad picture of him. He's not a bad guy, he's a very good Daddy, he does work very hard to support our family.
I don't agree with the post that said "it's all Me me me" Well, It is all me me me, It's me doing the sweet, out of the way, thoughtful things for him..never the other way around. Although, I guess last night was a small step in the right direction. He went to the store and brought me back a Blow POP..he used to do that for me when we were dating..and I asked for one the other day so he remembered that.
So, today I call a truce. I'm starting over. I know he loves me and I know I've been putting presure on him so I'm just going to back off and love him with all my heart and learn to love myself and I'm sure things will work themselves out.
Thanks again for everyones advice!!!