draconis

Yes your wife with all the turmoil feels good because she is in control. Now you are taking control of your life and happiness. Off guard she is re-evaluating everything.

Look at most of the how to get a girl/guy books. What attracts the opposite the most. Not the whinny I'll hang on your every word, hope, whim but rather the "if you don't great, if you do that is okay too." Attitude. Why? Strength in character. When you are weak how are you to help someone feeling weak?

Even if it doesn't help her to get back to you. You will not be wasted by a divorce like others might be. You will carry on, and recover much quicker.

I am happy you have found some inner strength.

draconis