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As others have notes, thank you for your service protecting us with your sacrifice. None of us knows how high the price of it is but you and your fellow soldiers.

A couple of things stand out to me in your story.

1. The baby could be yours.

2. She volunteered some information about having cheated.

Those are huge positives! These are things that you can hang reconciliation upon.

That you are still deployed makes much of what you can do right now is a waiting game until you are eye to eye in the same room.

Yes, there are huge negatives floating about. Obviously, there is much she has not told you about what she has been doing in your absence. And there is the possibility that the child is not yours. And her tears now could be disingenuous.

But you know what? As overwhelming all of this is, you are not going to resolve this right now. Your own feelings, your current duties, not being in the same room with her, all those things make it so you have to focus on your immediate situation as much as possible.

Be wise about whether or not your wife has a cynicism about your marriage that you do not share. Be wise about personal failings. And most of all, protect yourself and what you will tolerate in your life.