Originally Posted by montana16
Did this ever happen to any of you?
Nope. My WW stayed faithful to me during all my deployments and didn't bang other men, even if she was depressed and lonely. She was more mature than that, at least I'll give her that credit. She didn't get pregnant by another man, and if she did, I wouldn't tolerate it. I'll be damned if I raise another man's kid, one who she cheated with.
How convenient is it that she doesn't know who the father is.
I guess the OM gets to get off scot free, getting away with banging your WW while you were deployed, while you pick up the tabs for raising his kid. If that's his kid, then he'll be back in your marriage. You may want to get counselling for yourself when you rotate back to the world for the mixed emotions and feelings that you're going to experience. You're not going to get rid of the mind movies just like that. And you will trigger, despite what you might think. You're right to be scared that you might feel different. This is just the start of the emotional roller coaster that you're going to ride on
. Right now, you feel you can accept anything and work on anything to fix the marriage because you love her so much, you should fully expect to feel the opposite way soon. There's no stopping this. You can only sweep it under the rug for so long before it affects you.