| | Full transperancy or stealth mode?
Ok - I've hidden something from my wife. A while back ago I received an email from an unknown person from a generic yahoo account. I did make the mistake of replying back but at the time the email really aggravated me. Now I'm having doubts and wondering. Here is the exchange:
Unknown person: right now your wife is meeting someone at ****** park. sorry to have to be the one to tell u
me: Who is this?!?
Unknown person: that isn't important. i'm very sorry.
me: your wrong, don't email me again
Unknown person: sorry that it hurts
That was 6 weeks ago.
I've admitted on this site about things being a bit rocky in our marriage but I can't say I've suspected anything. This email however eventually got the best of me and I'm flipping back and forth between being pissed at myself for letting it bother me to telling myself I need to verify.
At this point I haven't said anything to my W. At first it was because it felt wrong running to her and showing her the crap that I received. My belief then was that it was a prank or something else. Over time and as we have some iffy or bad moments then the doubt creeped in.
Would you go full full transparency and show/discuss with the other spouse. Or would you go stealthy and verify on your own. To be honest most of the time I'm not letting it get to me but I'm just insecure enough to wonder on occasion - which I can't stand. Reading through the Coping with Infidelity section has helped but it has also added to that insecurity - but that's my problem.