Originally Posted by LucyLate

I don't know. People have advised me to consider a trial separation or an ultimatum of one.
But marriage is marriage and I feel like that's wrong. Doesn't being alone make you feel betrayed? I don't want to leave because I don't want to hurt my husband. But honestly I'd love my husband to beg me to stay or to come back if I left! I'd feel desired and wanted. The opposite of how I feel when he's abusive.

You need to decide that you need to change, for you and for her. And maybe this is the best way for you to be forced into that decision.

I hope you sleep better soon.
My story so far is on Life & Love, so far it might give you a different perspective?