demora

I think the realization is a good thing and a healthy thing. It's important for each person to understand that it takes both to make a marriage work.

I read all of your posts from the beginning. Sometimes, we do have epiphanies to late to make a huge difference in how things work out for us, but the important thing is that we learned. All you can do is love your wife and hope that she will return the love freely. Being understanding and sensative to her needs is wonderful, but not at the expense of you. There has to be a balance and granted it sounds like that balance was out of whack for a long time. We all enjoy time to ourselves, but also cherish the family time. She maybe seeing the change in you and feeling guilty about it because she feels that it's her fault you are no longer enjoying things you used to do.

No form of communication is bad - whether it's email, phone, writing a letter. Whatever it takes to communicate how you feel is a good thing. I have written letters to my husband because I didn't feel like I could physically say what I needed to say. It is so hard sometimes to just get the right words to come out of my mouth, but they seem to flow out of fingers very well.

Good luck to you.