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fredfoxw28 · 01-23-2008, 09:11 AM

Hi E-girl
Now that you have been married to him for 7 years and in total 15 years together,things have not change and remained the same. Things can only change if he is willing to change. In the mean time maybe you have to take the time out to work on yourself. Why have you stuck around for so long. I understand that you love him but put love aside for a second, what is holding you back from your happiness? Is this marriage a security blanket for something that you are trying to avoid. Now, I do not suggest divorce because I do not think it's my place and I do not always think that's the answer. Counseling is definitely needed and if he decides he does not want to go, go by yourself and not to the one who told you to leave him but to one that can discuss the other issues that are breaking this marriage apart. This will not be a cure all but more of enlighting experience for you. We all stick around for different reasons and maybe you may want to look into that a little more. Questions to ask yourself? Do I deserve this? Am I a loving person? Do I deserved to be loved?

01-23-2008, 09:11 AM	#2 (permalink)
fredfoxw28 Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: jamaica queens Posts: 47	Re: new to forum/need help in marriage Hi E-girl Now that you have been married to him for 7 years and in total 15 years together,things have not change and remained the same. Things can only change if he is willing to change. In the mean time maybe you have to take the time out to work on yourself. Why have you stuck around for so long. I understand that you love him but put love aside for a second, what is holding you back from your happiness? Is this marriage a security blanket for something that you are trying to avoid. Now, I do not suggest divorce because I do not think it's my place and I do not always think that's the answer. Counseling is definitely needed and if he decides he does not want to go, go by yourself and not to the one who told you to leave him but to one that can discuss the other issues that are breaking this marriage apart. This will not be a cure all but more of enlighting experience for you. We all stick around for different reasons and maybe you may want to look into that a little more. Questions to ask yourself? Do I deserve this? Am I a loving person? Do I deserved to be loved?