ON this forum, of course, it is by far the troubled relationships that we discuss the most.
But my own marriage, I would describe as very successful, my wife and myself very much on the same plane.
And I say that in agreement with your statement, to take care of the home fires.
But I will say this, to expect success, is not to leave it to chance, or even have the attitude chance or luck has anything to do with it.
As a man I make it my business to make my own desires and expectations known to my wife (this usually involves few if any words), as a man I make it my business to receive such desires and expectations appropriately (sometimes with gushing appreciation, sometimes with pure egotistical entitlement
), and as a man I make it my business to learn and perform what she enjoys, so that sexual relations is very much a radical pleasure for her as well.
And outside the bedroom, this is perhaps most important, I act and behave just exactly how the kind of man would behave who would enjoy and expect frequent sexual relations with his woman.
Good topic, I hope to hear more on this subject.