I needed to know too, and talking things out helped me tremendously. There were even a few times when I saw or heard something that bothered me, but instead of asking my husband right away, I stewed for a while. He always knew I was upset, and as soon as I "spilled it", the explanation was forthcoming, and we talked. He asked me not to keep the fear/worry inside, but to express it. These were simple things, but of course after the EA we are so filled with doubt at first.
I really believe that talking to each other (painful though it is at first to hear some of our questions answered), is the first step on the road to recovery.
By the way, has anyone out there heard of this movie called "Fireproof"? I saw the trailer just now, and I'm thinking of getting it for my husband for Valentine's Day. It looks like a wonderful movie....being used by churches to help couples with marriages. Here's the link, and let me know if anyone has seen it, and what you thought of it. Welcome To FireproofTheMovie.com - DVD IN STORES NOW!