Hello all. I'm not even sure how to start here. Me and my husband have gotten into a horrible routine. We both have average sex drives but don't have sex. Usually he wants sex in the morning and masturbates then, I always want sex at night and masturbate then. We both know it is happening and keep saying that we should really be working together rather than separate but things stay the same. We haven't had sex in.... not sure exactly but it's been months. This has been a progressively increasing problem for years though.
When we discuss it, we both realize that a) we do it because it's just easier but b) we both really want to change this pattern and have sex instead.
We have 2 children, youngest is 4 so they are able to be independent and give us our time. We are not dealing with being up all night with babies or toddlers who won't let you out of their sight anymore. (When we were the situation seemed to make more sense so we didn't really do anything about it) and our jobs are not too demanding that they should get in the way of a healthy sex life. I really can't think of any outside factor that would prevent us from fixing this.
We are both homebodies who don't go out unless it's with family. We both have access to each others phones, facebook, e-mails, etc so cheating isn't a issue.