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smg · 01-25-2008, 05:51 AM

My husband is angry with me and our 22 year old son because my son will not go into the service. My husband feels like the service will make a better man out of our son. Our son does not want to go into the service. My husband has never had a good relationship with our son but I have. My husband keeps saying our son will not listen to him but he will listen to me. I feel like this is because my husband never really tried that hard to have a really close relationship with our son. He gave him love and money but never really tried hard to spend a lot of father and son time with him. For the past two years my husband has been trying to get my son to go into the service. Because I have a closer relationship with my son my husband has been recently getting angry with me on a daily basis because I will not try to convince my son to go into the service. He feels like I can do it. I feel like my son has the right to make his own decisions. He is 22 years old. I do not care whether my son goes into the service just as long as it is his decision. My husband does not believe me. He thinks I do not want my son in the service. My husband argues with me on a daily basis about convincing our son to go into the service. Our son does not live with us but is working and staying out of trouble. This does not satisfy my husband. If my son is not talking about going into the service nothing he does is right according to my husband. My husband blames me for anything my son does. I feel like this is because my husband knows he was not as close to our son when he was growing us as he should have been and now regrets it. Because I am the closes person to my husband he is taking all of his anger out on me. Anything I do that my husband does not like I am constantly told you are just like your son. My son loves both me and my husband. He has told my husband he loves him but my husband feels like if he's not talking about going into the service then he's not showing his love for him. My husband's obsession with my son going into the service is destroying his relationship with our son and our marriage. I prayer everyday is for God to remove the pain and evilness that my husband is going through. I also pray for a closer relationship between my son and husband and for our marriage.

01-25-2008, 05:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
smg Registered User Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 2	Troubled Family My husband is angry with me and our 22 year old son because my son will not go into the service. My husband feels like the service will make a better man out of our son. Our son does not want to go into the service. My husband has never had a good relationship with our son but I have. My husband keeps saying our son will not listen to him but he will listen to me. I feel like this is because my husband never really tried that hard to have a really close relationship with our son. He gave him love and money but never really tried hard to spend a lot of father and son time with him. For the past two years my husband has been trying to get my son to go into the service. Because I have a closer relationship with my son my husband has been recently getting angry with me on a daily basis because I will not try to convince my son to go into the service. He feels like I can do it. I feel like my son has the right to make his own decisions. He is 22 years old. I do not care whether my son goes into the service just as long as it is his decision. My husband does not believe me. He thinks I do not want my son in the service. My husband argues with me on a daily basis about convincing our son to go into the service. Our son does not live with us but is working and staying out of trouble. This does not satisfy my husband. If my son is not talking about going into the service nothing he does is right according to my husband. My husband blames me for anything my son does. I feel like this is because my husband knows he was not as close to our son when he was growing us as he should have been and now regrets it. Because I am the closes person to my husband he is taking all of his anger out on me. Anything I do that my husband does not like I am constantly told you are just like your son. My son loves both me and my husband. He has told my husband he loves him but my husband feels like if he's not talking about going into the service then he's not showing his love for him. My husband's obsession with my son going into the service is destroying his relationship with our son and our marriage. I prayer everyday is for God to remove the pain and evilness that my husband is going through. I also pray for a closer relationship between my son and husband and for our marriage.