Originally Posted by morituri
TIB, anger and bitterness are your true enemies, exponentially much worse than any OM you encounter. If you feed them, they will take permanent residency in your heart and will poison you life. Make a conscious decision that no matter what happens to your marriage that you will not allow these toxic twins a place in your heart and soul.
That reminded me of the story of the old Cherokee talking to his grandson. That story has been posted here a couple of times on other threads, but it's been a while.
Basically, the grandfather is telling the boy that inside of him are 2 wolves fighting. One is good, with a description of all that entails. One is bad, including anger and bitterness. These two wolves are constantly fighting inside of him and each one of us.
The boy asked which one will win.
The wise man answered, "The one I feed."
It's easy to feed that bad wolf in our situation. Starve him and he will get weaker. It's easier said than done, but you (and I) have to make a conscience effort to do it or that damn bad wolf will take over.