demora

It sounds like your husband is having some guilt issues. Maybe he woke up one day and realized that his little boy is now a man and he missed so much by not taking the time to be close. It sounds like he lashes out at you because you have the relationship with your son that he has missed out on and maybe he sees the service as something that would bring them together....like your son did it just for him (not a rational reason to join the military, but it doesn't sound like your husband is being rational right now).

I'm no professional, but I would think maybe some family counseling could help the situation, or maybe just some father son time to really connect...if there's something they both enjoy doing. But it doesn't sound like this would really work.

Was your husband in the service? A lot of times, I think men who were in the service have aspirations of their sons following in their footsteps.

Best wishes. I will keep you and your family in my prayers