Originally Posted by Conrad
Thanks for the link. It's clearly a long thread, but I read most of it. Please forgive me if I'm oversimplifying it, but is the basic idea that women periodically test their men to see under what conditions they lose control? And even though one would think naively that a man who was strongly emotionally affected by a relationship where clear communication was not possible would be valued by a woman, in reality they prefer men who stay in control (even if by staying in control the man has to hide that he's upset with the situation?) Is this in anyway related to the vague notion that women "like bad boys" (the connection being that since 'bad boys' are so 'bad' they probably stay in control of situations and aren't easily affected by emotional tantrums and such?).
If I understand this correctly, it's certainly an interesting theory, and one in which I would be interested in applying. When I feel that she's being extremely unfair to me, it clearly bothers me, and in being bothered, it usually makes her MORE aggressive. This is consistent with the "fitness test" idea. If I were able to frame her aggression as a sort of control test, it'd be much easier for me to ignore the unfair aspects of it and simply try to pass the test.