Originally Posted by Shamwow
WTF. Just logged into her FB (oops) and checked out profile of OM. His Facebook profile says he's married (I could never see this because I'm not FB friends with him). Is this avenue even worth pursuing anymore? I'd have to ask around to some of her work friends to find out anything. Or hire a PI to research him for me. Not sure if I even wanna go there anymore, but like I said I'd REALLY like to eff up his life like he's done to mine. Round and around we go...
I did a records search in the state he lives in, and it showed he was not married. Perhaps he was married in a different state than he lives now, and I'd have to search that state? Don't care if/what I do about this right now, but I want a name, email and phone number for her so I can pull the strings from afar. Just send her a copy of the email that her d-bag hubby sent my wife with a link to PORN. Saying, "just thought you should know." That oughta do it.
I would advise against revenge. Make a clean break and start a new life. Break up as coldly and indifferently as you can. (I understand it is tempting to find out if he has a wife and give her the info.). When my X cheated I texed our common friends that she was cheating with a collegue, so I understand very well that you want to use a PI. If feels good in the moment, but it does not change much for you?