Originally Posted by MarkTwain
Going through those numbered points, how many of them are now in the past, and how many are in the present?
MT, you're answer comes first, OD, yours comes second
#1 (walked all over me) he's getting under wraps/in the beginning we got pregnant young and he was a little upset about not getting to have his freedom, so I tried to be giving enough to let him have the best of both worlds, only he took the best of his world
#2 (invalidates me) I had just become aware of it and let him know about it a week ago/just his nature I guess...? dunno
#3 (sexual denial) is a moot point because our relationship is in no place to be having sex right now b/c of all the other points/I have had more sexual partners than he has... I was his first, and only long term sexual encounter, maybe he feels novice, but he never responds to stepping it up
#4 (his family) still valid/their religion keeps them closed minded and gossipy
#5 (can't entertain ourselves) we always have more fun when we're out with friends, so still valid/I have no idea
#6 (sexual fantasy) it's not like that one thing can just happen, there are specific criteria that must be met that can't just be created instantly, but if the situation presented itself again, I would just do what I need to do and that's it and he'd just have to accept it/ he's had my fantasy reversed so it suits him... multiple times! So what led him to not let me have it? Probably #2!
#7 (obsessions) up until Sunday, this was still valid/ I dunno, I guess him always thinking everything was ok with our relationship, and him getting to do what he wants. I don't have any hobbies like that, so all spare time is spent on his. One doc suggested he may be OCD.
We've seen two counselors and right away both of them told him he was selfish. I've done all I can through the years to tell him how much he hurts me when he does those things, but he never listened to me. Why does he listen to me when I'm on the verge of being past the point of no return... when I take off my rings? Another power trip?