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bmtgrl · 01-26-2008, 10:10 PM

My husband wants a divorce. I don't. If it does go through I don't know what's going to happen to me and my son. When I married my husband I moved across the country to be with him. I made the decision to spend my life with him. Now he's making a decision that will change my life and my sons life forever. We moved 2 years ago to be closer to my family and his other son from his first marriage, however, we are still 4hrs away from them (and 8 from my mom). Now that he is talking divorce, he expects me to stay in this area. I may want to move (with my son of course) to be near my family for support. If I try to leave, he will fight me for our son. He is trying to control this whole process, and rush it. I told him that if he rushes this process I will dig in my heals. He wants me to move out, us to establish visitation for him and child support amount, and then he will file. I don't know if this is the best way to deal with this. He is trying to set is all up so that he gets the house and I can't leave the area. The house is not my concern because I know I can not afford it on my own, even with child support. I am scared to death of not getting full custody of my son. I truly need to have him, this is not just a want, it really is a need. I'm sure you moms out there will understand this. I have plans to get an attorney, I hope he's a good one.

01-26-2008, 10:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
bmtgrl Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 21	Facing divorce My husband wants a divorce. I don't. If it does go through I don't know what's going to happen to me and my son. When I married my husband I moved across the country to be with him. I made the decision to spend my life with him. Now he's making a decision that will change my life and my sons life forever. We moved 2 years ago to be closer to my family and his other son from his first marriage, however, we are still 4hrs away from them (and 8 from my mom). Now that he is talking divorce, he expects me to stay in this area. I may want to move (with my son of course) to be near my family for support. If I try to leave, he will fight me for our son. He is trying to control this whole process, and rush it. I told him that if he rushes this process I will dig in my heals. He wants me to move out, us to establish visitation for him and child support amount, and then he will file. I don't know if this is the best way to deal with this. He is trying to set is all up so that he gets the house and I can't leave the area. The house is not my concern because I know I can not afford it on my own, even with child support. I am scared to death of not getting full custody of my son. I truly need to have him, this is not just a want, it really is a need. I'm sure you moms out there will understand this. I have plans to get an attorney, I hope he's a good one.