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MrsLV · 01-28-2008, 01:14 PM

Well, I know he isn't making much money because he just started and has to build up his clientale-but my problem is that my money is tracked and his isn't. All I spend money on is bills and groceries and gas. But every penny counts, as we are not well off (yet). So my thing is, if he makes $300 that week and pays out $150 for booth rent, shouldn't the rest of the money be put into the bank account. We share my money, and my money is all direct deposits; but since he gets paid cash I can't see his money going into the pot. Don't get me wrong-sometimes he buys me things and sometimes he buys his self things...but I just feel a little slighted because i'm all visable and he's sort of invisible. I want us to be on level ground, even though I do make more money.
I guess in the past since I've been used for my money, the pain is still there. I don't think he'll ever do anything to hurt me. I don't think he's using me. I just want us to be 'equal' in all matters-and if my money can be seen all out in the open, then his should too.
Some couples have individual accounts and then they also have a house account-and I wonder if that's something we should do. I'm just afraid to confront him on this because I don't want to make him feel bad that he doesn't have as much as I do. I even feel funny saying "as much as I do" since I share my money with him-so it feels like in one pot there's "our money" then in another pot is "his money". I don't think that's fair at all.

01-28-2008, 01:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
MrsLV Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 57	Re: sharing funds Well, I know he isn't making much money because he just started and has to build up his clientale-but my problem is that my money is tracked and his isn't. All I spend money on is bills and groceries and gas. But every penny counts, as we are not well off (yet). So my thing is, if he makes $300 that week and pays out $150 for booth rent, shouldn't the rest of the money be put into the bank account. We share my money, and my money is all direct deposits; but since he gets paid cash I can't see his money going into the pot. Don't get me wrong-sometimes he buys me things and sometimes he buys his self things...but I just feel a little slighted because i'm all visable and he's sort of invisible. I want us to be on level ground, even though I do make more money. I guess in the past since I've been used for my money, the pain is still there. I don't think he'll ever do anything to hurt me. I don't think he's using me. I just want us to be 'equal' in all matters-and if my money can be seen all out in the open, then his should too. Some couples have individual accounts and then they also have a house account-and I wonder if that's something we should do. I'm just afraid to confront him on this because I don't want to make him feel bad that he doesn't have as much as I do. I even feel funny saying "as much as I do" since I share my money with him-so it feels like in one pot there's "our money" then in another pot is "his money". I don't think that's fair at all. __________________ Seek God BEFORE "all else fails", not WHEN "all else fails".