Re: My boyfriend of seven years cheated
Hi Lisa,
No doubt you are going through some very tough times and we all feel for you.
2 points.
1. The community have called it correctly and you should cut all ties with him and start the healing process for your self. Try and get as much support by talking to family and friends. Of course using this forum is the best way to vent as well.
2. If on the remote chance you want to save your relationship then give yourselves some space and time to think.
Try and limit communication to every 2 or 3 days. Use the time to think rationally about how you want the relationship to move forward and what type of partner you would like and expect.
One of the outcomes you should expect from your partner, during this time off, is for him to truly understand he has really hurt you and that he needs to be very remorseful of the situation.
If he doesn't genuinely see that then really there isn't much hope.
In conclusion I would probably suggest that most people who read your post would want you to cut all ties and move on. I think given the amount of lies and deception there really is no alternative.
If you decide to cut all ties, take the necessary time to heal your self before moving onto another relationship.
Stay brave. Best of luck.
Cheers
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