newshoes

Trust is a huge aspect of a relationship that I value. Along with respect and communication.

What do you do when the trust is broken? How do you move on and rebuild it?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He lives with me, and my 2 children. Recently, while he was on a business trip, I found out that he met up with a girl who I know he has had relations with. When I confronted him about it, he lied. He continued to lie until I pushed him so hard he admitted to it. Previous to this a few months back, I found out that he had a private email account and that he had been email girls. In one of the emails he referred to me as "someone he was just seeing, that was opened"!?!?! I believe that it was just emails, I do not think that he actually met anyone, as he doesn't have enough time in his day to do that. But now since his return I don't trust him. I am sure he had time on his hands while he was away.

I love him with all my heart, he is my best friend, and I am willing to work it out, as he said he is too. But where to start? I did ask him to move out for awhile to get our heads straight, but he ignored that suggestion.

I keep thinking if he loved me so much, he would not have disrespected me and lied to me.