sugarbabe_mn

Hello everyone....like so many I am new here......I am 36 years old as is my husband and we have been married for almost 13 years and have been together for 15. We have 3 young boys ages 9, 7, and 4 whome we both ove very much. We have had our share of problems including a year seperation 10 years ago...Last October my husband came to me and told me he didnt think he loved me anymore....Of course I asked the only question I could uster...and that was 'if there was someone else'. He hesitantly told me that he had been sleeping with a good friend of mine/ours since May. He slept with her in our home...as well as in our camper and who knows where else. What a blow that was to me and our family!

Being told that crushed me and my self esteem but since then I have been working on making myself feel better about who I am (loosing weight, working out, experiencing new things, etc) Doing these things has made me see that I really am not happy in my marriage. I mean how can I ever trust him again...I have made a timeline on getting my life in order so that I can ask him to leave and for a divorce but I feel in alot of ways in doing so I am going to ruin his life. Is this normal? I have no clue even how to begin thiss process or where to find the courage to just do it so that I can be happy again. I have great family and friends supporting this decision...I just hate knowing that I am going to crush his world as he did mine when he told me he slept with someone else. I guess I am just looking for any advice that might be out there.

I have sarted looking at mediation services and how those cn help mke this easier on us all. I would like my kids not to end up in the middle of a huge battle. Funny I still care about my husband......and hope to remain friendly with him after this is settled.

thanks for any advice
sugarbabe -in- Mn