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Angelica · 02-15-2009, 10:40 AM

Hi, thanks for replying

Would I wait until I was 31? I would, because I love him and I don't want anyone else but it's not ideal for me. Ideally I'd like to have two kids by my early - mid 30s, though I'm obviously realising that things don't always work out as one would want.

We spoke about it again today and he said that yes, he does want to marry me but he's not ready for it and he doesn't know why. My good friend that is proposing to his girlfriend this weekend is 27 (she's just turned 30) and they've been together three years.

We're going to the weddings and engagements together, they're all mutual friends. I don't know if that would influence him or not .. it might do, we'll see.

As for our friends, a lot of them are engaged. A couple are married (including a couple younger than us) but yeah, a lot of the men our age that are in couples are engaged.

I guess I'll just have to bite my tongue and deal with it. If I get upset I'll keep it all in ... not ideal, but I don't want him to think that I'm nagging.

Thanks for your advice. Male advice would be most welcome on this thread, especially if you've gone through the same thing!

02-15-2009, 10:40 AM	#6 (permalink)
Angelica Registered User Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: London, UK Posts: 4	Re: Why won't he propose; what's wrong with me? Hi, thanks for replying Would I wait until I was 31? I would, because I love him and I don't want anyone else but it's not ideal for me. Ideally I'd like to have two kids by my early - mid 30s, though I'm obviously realising that things don't always work out as one would want. We spoke about it again today and he said that yes, he does want to marry me but he's not ready for it and he doesn't know why. My good friend that is proposing to his girlfriend this weekend is 27 (she's just turned 30) and they've been together three years. We're going to the weddings and engagements together, they're all mutual friends. I don't know if that would influence him or not .. it might do, we'll see. As for our friends, a lot of them are engaged. A couple are married (including a couple younger than us) but yeah, a lot of the men our age that are in couples are engaged. I guess I'll just have to bite my tongue and deal with it. If I get upset I'll keep it all in ... not ideal, but I don't want him to think that I'm nagging. Thanks for your advice. Male advice would be most welcome on this thread, especially if you've gone through the same thing!