Originally Posted by Lon

Sorry you are dealing with this Audio. I too am the person that is inclined to believe my spouse, I trusted her wholeheartedly and never would have conceived the idea of her betraying that trust, but yet she did. And when evidence inevitably started surfacing she only allowed little bits of the truth to trickle out, but in my case she was so deep in it she wasn't willing to even look back. Between my denial and her "shame" (which she still can't face) it prevented us from being able to get at the issue.

The reason I'm telling you this is to prepare you for the possibility of "trickle truth" because if/when you find out bit by bit that an affair is deeper than you were told, each time it will take another huge bite out of whatever trust you have left. You need to get to the bottom of this for your own sanity and at this point you can't trust any words that come from your H's, or your "friend's" mouths.

Ask yourself how long does it usually take for him to drive her home? You say he has driven her home often and obviously the attraction must have been there between them for awhile so why trust that only a kiss happened this last time, it very well may go so much deeper, and you could also be in a deep denial. You are warranted to do some investigating if you have any chance of cutting them off from each other - you need him to go no contact with her and you should write her out of your life because she is an enemy to your marriage.

If you do find it goes deeper, then you have some soul searching to do to decide if you can even life with this without feeling like you had to settle, and without feeling like second best. Best of luck to you and for your sake I hope your H was telling the truth and that you can nip this in the bud and fix your M.