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TheOptimist · 02-01-2008, 11:24 AM

First off, please don't hit the panic button. Stay calm.

Second, you are NORMAL, and your husband is NORMAL.

Again... relax, don't panic, and understand your situation with the new baby is normal and happens all over the world to couples with new babies, and understand the "porn situation" with your husband is normal, very common...men are "wired" for sex so much so that it's like food & water...

The appetite for sex increases dramatically about every 72 hours... (about 3 days after having sex, the appetite is very high again)... so every set of breasts and every temptation to "mouse click" a quick peek at sex is more of a temptation three days after having had sex. The DAY he has an orgasm, his appetite is gone... the next day it's not much of an issue... look at a short skirt maybe or maybe not worth a second glance, the THIRD day in a row with no orgasm, well, he's pretty hungry for sexual attention... and, again, like food and water... every offer of T&A is quite a temptation to at least look at.

However, actually having an affair, is much, much less likely. And much more complicatd, disease risk, "cheating" feeling, it's just not worth it, and too difficult, and much more serious. Relax for now.

It has NOTHING to do with you, or the other woman's short skirt, or the internet's "constant-and-very-easy-to-see-porn".

It's a physical, "hunger" as if he hasn't eaten food for 3 days. "Everybody's" apple pie is a temptation... However, right after a big meal, "Nobody's" apple pie interests him.

There is a book titled "Every Man's Battle" that talks about every man being constantly tempted by sex. Even bra & pantie advertisements... well, the men are tempted because it's been 72 hours plus, and men are wired to "see" and hunger sexual things...

When you are talking about a normal, healhy, man... it's only the "emptied out" man, or recently orgasmed man that does NOT notice the bra & panty ads... who does NOT feel a little tempted by the internet instant "click to porn"... who does NOT feel a little "tug" to pull into the strip bar. However, in 72 hours those things are "tempting" again, and will catch his eye.

There is a bell curve... so I feel like I'm talking about 60% of all men, but certainly not ALL men.

02-01-2008, 11:24 AM	#2 (permalink)
TheOptimist Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 1	Re: my husbands porn addiction First off, please don't hit the panic button. Stay calm. Second, you are NORMAL, and your husband is NORMAL. Again... relax, don't panic, and understand your situation with the new baby is normal and happens all over the world to couples with new babies, and understand the "porn situation" with your husband is normal, very common...men are "wired" for sex so much so that it's like food & water... The appetite for sex increases dramatically about every 72 hours... (about 3 days after having sex, the appetite is very high again)... so every set of breasts and every temptation to "mouse click" a quick peek at sex is more of a temptation three days after having had sex. The DAY he has an orgasm, his appetite is gone... the next day it's not much of an issue... look at a short skirt maybe or maybe not worth a second glance, the THIRD day in a row with no orgasm, well, he's pretty hungry for sexual attention... and, again, like food and water... every offer of T&A is quite a temptation to at least look at. However, actually having an affair, is much, much less likely. And much more complicatd, disease risk, "cheating" feeling, it's just not worth it, and too difficult, and much more serious. Relax for now. It has NOTHING to do with you, or the other woman's short skirt, or the internet's "constant-and-very-easy-to-see-porn". It's a physical, "hunger" as if he hasn't eaten food for 3 days. "Everybody's" apple pie is a temptation... However, right after a big meal, "Nobody's" apple pie interests him. There is a book titled "Every Man's Battle" that talks about every man being constantly tempted by sex. Even bra & pantie advertisements... well, the men are tempted because it's been 72 hours plus, and men are wired to "see" and hunger sexual things... When you are talking about a normal, healhy, man... it's only the "emptied out" man, or recently orgasmed man that does NOT notice the bra & panty ads... who does NOT feel a little tempted by the internet instant "click to porn"... who does NOT feel a little "tug" to pull into the strip bar. However, in 72 hours those things are "tempting" again, and will catch his eye. There is a bell curve... so I feel like I'm talking about 60% of all men, but certainly not ALL men.