demora

It sounds a lot like he's depressed. I think there is so much empasis on post-pardom (sp) depression with women, that sometimes we forget about the adjustment men also need to make. The feeling of being indifferent is what sort of makes me feel that he might be depressed a little. Changes in life, whether they are good or not so good can have an effect on us. Change is stressful and stress can contribute to depression. (I went to counseling for over 3 years and have been on Effexor for about 7 years now. My couselor and my doctor told me that my life needs to be on an even keel before I start weening off of it....the stress from positivie changes could throw me back into deep depression and I would be back at square 1. Just telling you this so you know I'm not just making stuff up that sounds good...or bad.)

However, if he doesn't put the effort into the counseling or the relationship, it will fail. Counseling is hard work, you can't expect the counselor to "fix" anything, they give you the tools you need to fix things within yourself. They offer different perspectives and insight, but they can't fix anything.

<now I'm babbling, but it's my observation:>
From the men I've encountered in my life, men need a lot of attention from the woman they love, and sometimes they lose sight of other things in our lives. A woman's heart is an amazing thing and sometimes it is hard for men to understand that there is room enough in that heart to love many different people - kids, parents, sibliings - and still have just as much love for them as we did before.

They tend not to want to share us with other people in our lives and sometimes resent the people and the time we spend away from them.

My heart goes out to you and I hope that he will see what he has and decide it's worth working for. He's got to fight his way back from indifference and feel what's inside.