Danielle2011

Thank you for the response! The first letter I wrote to him he had no response. About 2 weeks after I gave it to him I finally said I needed some feedback... and he opened up a little bit but alot of the things he has said were on the defense and pretty crappy to hear. A month or so later, and a few more discussions about things, he writes me a letter back. I also tried having both of us write down a list of priorites, what we want out of life, and so forth, to try and give him time to really think and not just react to what im saying, but say what he feels. So as soon as he finished reading my list he immediately says "see, theres alot of the same". Ive told him numerous times hes missing the point and I do completely agree with you on the "telling him blue but what he hears is red". Im really starting to think maybe we're just not the perfect couple I was trying to be and what everyone else thought to be. Im so exhausted at trying to understand him and get my point across without putting my needs last like I have done for the majority of the marriage. I feel like im in limbo and my head and heart are in two different places.