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ConfusedinColumbus · 02-20-2009, 07:16 AM

Would appreciate some advice/insight to my current dilemma...

Just discovered that my wife of 10 years and a married male co-worker exchanged over 700 text messages in a one month period, including 40+ messages on Christmas day. Text sessions have sometimes been for 60-90 minutes straight, a night while at home. Texts occur in the AM, PM and weekends. She deletes her emails/texts. We went to dinner with this co-worker and his wife (before I knew about the "relationship") and learned that he sent a text to her while at dinner (presumably when he went to the restroom) and another after dinner.

When confronted about this, she claims its nothing and they are just friends. She does not believe it is inappropriate, as she is "one of the guys" and this coworker in question is just a friend. No explanation as to what they talked about on Christmas or why she deletes her texts/emails.

She continues to text him, too early to tell if it is less so. Mind you, she sees him almost everyday at work.

This is her second marriage, she did cheat on her first husband with a coworker (she downplays that because she was young and unhappily married).

Thanks,
ConfusedinColumbus

02-20-2009, 07:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
ConfusedinColumbus Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: OH Posts: 56	Wife and Male Coworker Would appreciate some advice/insight to my current dilemma... Just discovered that my wife of 10 years and a married male co-worker exchanged over 700 text messages in a one month period, including 40+ messages on Christmas day. Text sessions have sometimes been for 60-90 minutes straight, a night while at home. Texts occur in the AM, PM and weekends. She deletes her emails/texts. We went to dinner with this co-worker and his wife (before I knew about the "relationship") and learned that he sent a text to her while at dinner (presumably when he went to the restroom) and another after dinner. When confronted about this, she claims its nothing and they are just friends. She does not believe it is inappropriate, as she is "one of the guys" and this coworker in question is just a friend. No explanation as to what they talked about on Christmas or why she deletes her texts/emails. She continues to text him, too early to tell if it is less so. Mind you, she sees him almost everyday at work. This is her second marriage, she did cheat on her first husband with a coworker (she downplays that because she was young and unhappily married). Thanks, ConfusedinColumbus