Originally Posted by zaliblue

Nobody should be lazy in sex....and im not saying that the man should initiate sex every time....im just saying that instead of being a nice respectful guy all of the time.....learn to take what you want....women love confidence.....or at least i do....i know that i can't speak for all women.....but my friends and i are pretty much all on the same page....i know women are complicated creatures......and i feel bad for u guys...i really do....someone wrote that one day the wife wants kinky, the next sweet....and it's hard for u guys to read which one she wants....this is where u have to learn how to read her body language....my hubby knows what i want....and i know what he wants....when he wants to be kinky...he kisses me a certain way and moves a certain way and i know what his body is saying to me....when he is in the "love-making" mood, he is softer....looks into my eyes deeply and kisses me sweetly.....i can just tell....and u guys need to learn that as well.....words, in my opinion, ruin the moment.....my husband can tell me he wants head without saying a word.....it's all about knowing your partner....their body....oh and another thing....a lot of guys expect their woman to put out when they treat her like crap....thats not how it works.....an unhappy wife is not worried about making you happy.....you can't be a **** until you decide you want some and start being nice...women aren't stupid....we can detect the mood change lol....