Originally Posted by ConfusedinColumbus
Thanks for replies...
For the most part the marriage is good (usual ups and downs, still intimate, two kids, good careers, etc). Now however, trust is in short supply (whether me wondering about her fidelity or her thinking about me snooping around).
His wife does know about the communication, but doubtful she knows the unfathomable number of total text messages - she apparently made some mention of it to her husband...with no obvious impact as the texting continued.
We have pretty much brushed in under the rug and my wife now treats it as a joke. He has been made aware of my knowledge of the communication and sent me an email apologizing, but similar to my wife he rationalizes it and said it was just friendly chat. I have not returned this email.
Last evening she told me she was going to check her email real quick before coming to bed and proceeded to text him (and her girlfriend, who she did tell me she chatted with, but no mention of the texting the male coworker). Last text message she received was from him (at almost 11PM).
This is no fun. I have no idea what transpires at work and no idea as to the subject matter in the texts.
I think that if you ignore this issue you will find it get worse and worse.
Well it's never fun to snoop, but I think that you have more than enough reasons to do so. I think installing a keylogger on the computer that she uses for email would be a good start to see what she is emailing about. There are some ways to get a transcript of the text messages, but I am no expert...