 Re: What is wrong with me?
MMJJ--how do you feel emotionally right now? With yourself and also with your partner? Do you feel connected to him? Like you have a good relationship? My libido suffers if I feel my partner isn't connecting with me emotionally.
Another thing -- do you find most of your relationships start wtih a lot of sex and then it dwindles? Do you get off more on the "high" of the beginning of a relationship? Then find yourself becoming bored? Is it boredom? Or do you genuinely not like your partner?
When you sex drive suffers--do you find you aren't turned on at all by anything/anyone? Or just your partner? Meaning, do you still find yourself feeling sexy/wanting sex and maybe just not with your partner?
What things can he do that make you feel turned on? For me, when a man is romantic, it really gets me going. Tell him what things you like/enjoy.
Have you been to see a therapist about this? Any prior abuse? Psychosexual issue? Or hormones? Is sex seen as messy/bad from your POV?
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